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Lessons for living- Wake Up! To You!

7 Sep

The most important person in your life is guess who? You!!
Remember that old adage if you can’t look after yourself than what good are you other people.
Traveling on airplanes we are always told that if the flight encounters trouble always apply your oxygen mask first before you tend to your kids.
Sounds selfish doesn’t it.
It’s the exact opposite, if you can’t breathe you are hardly going to be able to have the energy required to help your children when they need you most.
This is the same for all relationships that you encounter. If you don’t take care of yourself the relationship will be affected adversely on some level.
If you find it difficult to love yourself you will ultimately find it difficult to love someone else because you find fault within yourself and cannot understand how someone could love someone you don’t love yourself.Eventually you will slowly dismantle your relationship through feelings of unworthiness. Weird isn’t it!
If through abuse of your health you find that you struggle to be the parent your child would love you to be then make a conscious change.

What do you do then?
Spend some time on you and then you will be surprised how people around you react to the new confident you.

  • Think of one thing that you always wanted to do in life but you where afraid to do ?
  • Ask yourself if life had no obstacles such as time or money or commitments what is the one thing that you would love to do?
  • Commit to spending time on whatever it is that you would love to do.

If you spent twice a week concentrating on this dream. You would be guaranteed a different outlook to your life within a year or less. We are only truly happy when we spend time on activities and pleasures that make our heart sing. As my last post 5 regrets to avoid told us it is too late in the last stages of our lives to discover we regret having spent so much time on activities that we never enjoyed. Happiness is a choice it is up to you to decide if you want it.

“Life should be fun. Happiness should flow freely”

Wake up! to You!

Lessons for living- 5 Regrets to avoid.

30 Aug

As I was discussing in the past few articles the gems of Knowledge we learn from people who have lived their lives and have come to a realization that certain things in life matter more than others. I was taken with the words of the people who had taken part in Dr Karl Pillimers legacy project  on the thoughts of our elder friends and the wonderful conclusions that they had in life.

One Comment that recurred time and time again was the importance of “Saying it Now“. The only time you can share your deepest feelings is while people are still alive. Yet how often have so many of us failed to do this with Friends or especially parents or loved ones. This reminded me of a talk an article I did about a palliative care Nurse.

This Nurses name was Bronnie Ware and she cared for patients in the last 6 or so weeks of their lives. During this time with people who were confronting their own mortality and reflecting on their lives. She noticed that there were 5 regrets that kept recurring with all her patients. These regrets are interesting, when you think that these people have reached the final stages of their lives and are reflecting on what they would change.
* I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself not a life others wished of me.

When people’s lives are over it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. How often have we followed our parents footsteps into a world we have no interest in only to find our passion and zest for life being crushed as we try to please others. Find what you love to do and spend as much of your life doing it as is possible. Make it your Job!!. We are only happy when we spend time doing what we love to do. If you don’t want to be an accountant then don’t be. I am not trying to offend accountants but merely providing an example.

Most people have not honoured half their dreams and have died knowing it was down to the choices they had or had not made.

* I wish I had the courage to express my feelings.

Many of us suppress our feelings in order to keep peace with others. As Irish people we are good at this. We are in a restaurant and are unhappy with our meal. We tell everyone  at the table how unhappy we are. But don’t tell the people who served us the food because we don’t want to ruin the night or cause a fuss. We walk away from that restaurant kicking ourselves for not having the courage to say what we felt was right.

We are also not a great nation for expressing our feelings when we see wrong. Our economic collapse has been created by other forces yet we end up paying for it. We are not good at taking to the streets or expressing how we feel to the right people.

“If you think you are too small to be effective you have never been in bed with a mosquito” said Gandhi. If only more of us took that on board. as a result we are happy to settle for a mediocre existence.

* I wish I didn’t work so hard.

Every single male patient said this!!. They all said that they wished they had spent more time with the people they cared about most doing the things they loved. Life is not, Birth, School,Work ,Death. It’s much bigger than that.

* I wished I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. It is so easy to let relationships slip. Remember this! We choose our friends, that is the power and beauty behind friendships.

But as the final weeks of our lives stare us in the eye it is not money or success that matters but love and our friendships.

* I wished I had let myself be happier.

Life is full of events. We get stung by bees, relationships end, we crash cars, we lose jobs.That’s just life! it is how we interpret these events that make the difference. We can see it as another knock in what you expected to be a perfect life or you can see it as a chance to grow from your experience.

Many do not realise that happiness is a choice. Fear of change only strengthens that unhappiness.

What an interesting insight from the people who are most qualified to understand what it is like to stand on the precipice with one foot stepping into the unknown and the other leaving behind the past they created.

Why you should let your staff go surfing

21 Dec

We like this approach to management, in fact not enough companies think like this. Yvon Chouinard does and it this approach to business that makes Patagonia a company that people want to work for. The fact that they regularly have 900 applicants for each position within the company is a testament to this. But we at Wake Up! like companies that think differently and are conscious of the environment they inhabit and Patagonia who make climbing gear and outdoor clothing  are one of those companies.

Yvon Chouinard doesn’t have a business degree in fact most of his staff don’t have one either. He prefers to take on people he likes that have an interest in the outdoor life and teach them to be businesspeople rather than the other way around.He likes to break rules and make them work. We like him a lot.

Here are a few of Yvon’s thinkings when it comes to business

  • He employs people who are independent and lets them do what they have to do without any need to supervise.
  • He quite happily sees the benefits of having women in his workplace around 79% of his staff are women. He provides childcare facilities so he can keep his female employees for longer.
  • He tells his customers to buy less. Yes less!! you don’t need a separate pair of shorts for every sporting event. He wants his customers to think with a conscience just as Patagonia do as a company.
  • His staff are friends or Patagoniacs as they are called. He employs people he would like to go to dinner with. “Were surrounded by friends who could dress however they wanted, even barefooted. People ran or surfed at lunch, or played volleyball in the sandpit at the back of the building. The company sponsored ski and climbing trips”
  • He wrote a book called “Let my people go surfing“where he espouses the need to give your staff the freedom to do what they love to do. It makes for a connected and engaged workforce. We love the Patagonia way.
Behind all this is the strength to be able to allow your employees understand that they are trusted to do the right thing.  We spoke about this in the article on X and Y employees. Yvon is definitely a Y employer. If you can trust your staff to complete the tasks they are given then they should be allowed to enjoy the benefits of frisbee when the sun is shining or surfing when the waves are up. The fear is that your staff will take advantage of these opportunities to your detriment. The likelihood whatever you think it is,is probably true. Not only does Yvon trust his employees to do the right thing he also wants to ensure that Patagonia as a company do the right thing.
The Patagonia Mission statement is a testament to this
“Build the best product, cause no unnecessary harm,use business to inspire and implement solutions to the environmental crisis.”
Patagonia creates a happy workplace and it is working towards building a business that thinks with a conscience and also creates a happier world.

We can no longer do business without thinking of the consequences on the world we live in and the people who live here. The time to awaken is now.

Will Coffee and Apples make us happy at work?

30 Nov

I have just read an article from last Fridays Guardian  where journalist Graham Snowdon referred to a study on happiness within the workplace. It made the connection between happiness within the workplace and up to date technology a good desk and access to decent coffee.

According to research commissioned by office developers Goodman, the things that keep us most happy and motivated at work are both conceptually simple and reasonably cost-effective: namely, up to date computers, a desk for keeping personal things on, and access to decent coffee.

The simple things are always the best. Access to these items in themselves are a bonus to any office (some might even say a basic requirement) but discovering why our staff are happy requires that we delve a little deeper into why our staff keep turning up each day and being happy to be there.

Yes we do like shiny new computers and the best Italian coffees but If you want your staff to feel happy in the workplace they need to feel

  • That they have a meaningful contribution to the organization that they work for and have a say in the direction that the company is taking.
  • That the job that they have is engaging and they have a sense of fulfilment in their role.
  • That they are appreciated for what they do. We like to be praised for what we do. Not empty praise or praise for the sake of it. We need to really appreciate the people that work for and with us. When was the last time you let them know they mattered.
  • That enjoying coming to work is ok. Having fun in the workplace breaks up the routine and once again brings out a side of us we all love. Once it doesn’t hurt anyone you can be as wacky as you want to be. Try it some time.
  • That they are growing within your organization. We are creative ,inquisitive beings we like to learn. encourage your employees to take up a course in what ever they want to do. It does not have to be in a subject related to what they work at. It could be artistic, creative or based in logics or mathematics.  If it is what they want to do ir will only benefit you and them in the long run.
  • Trusted. I don’t mean security wise, that should be a given. I mean do you trust your staff to make the right decisions. We all make mistakes so be prepared to see some happen. Learn from it and move forward. As I spoke about in a previous blog. Ricardo Semler saw his company Semco grow once he was prepared to delegate responsibility and trust the decisions that his workers make. Go for it.

Access to Italian espresso and Apple computers are great plusses to any workplace. But if you hate where you work and what you do, no amount of coffee and Apple macs will change that.

Happiness at work comes from being engaged, feeling trusted, feeling appreciated,having control over what you do,enjoying turning up to where you work and apparently staplers!!! as Graham Snowdon says

Another interesting titbit from the Goodman survey concerns the vital importance of staplers on office morale. This is apparently particularly true in London, where one in 10 workers complain there are not enough to go around. In Scotland, curiously, there appears to something of a stapler surplus, with one in five saying they have too many of the things. Have the Scots been quietly stealing them all?

Happy days.

Waking up the workforce

20 Nov

This is Wake Up!s Blog which is designed to inform companies and benefits of creating a work environment that your staff and you will be happy to turn up to each day. We have moved from the 1970’s and 80’s style of workplace(I hope) yet funnily enough I still come across them more frequently than I expect. Some offices are like walking back int a 70’s sitcom others can look very modern but are limited by an bygone way of thinking.

At the lollipop effect we look at companies that have done more than break the mould but have pushed our thinking within the workplace beyond Maslow and Mcgregor. We are here to let you know that “Your workplace does not have to remain the way it always has been” simple changes can affect your staffs motivation, their thinking and your bottom line.

We strive for democracy the world over. We celebrate our ability to vote in local and national elections. Some countries throughout the Middle East have experienced revolutions expressing the will to end dictatorships and embrace democracy. Yet we rarely work within a workplaces that mirrors the society we live in.

Here we can discuss the merits for providing a workplace that we are happy to turn up to each day.

Happy days

 

 

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